Utilize POSTIVE WORDS in your affirmation instead of utilizing words which serve to remind you of something you wish to eradicate. Producing the affirmation in the positive is much more effective.
DON’T say and think, “I'm not shy” or “I'm not insecure”
Rather SAY and THINK, “I'm outgoing” or “I'm secure” or “I'm confident”
When writing an affirmation, ask yourself what is it that you fundamentally want. Then compose the affirmation based on your answer to this question, instead of focusing and constructing your affirmation on what you don't want.
Again, your actions and effort are influenced by your thinking, self talk and affirmations. Centering on being outgoing, secure and confident is much more likely to bring about the results you want, than using an affirmation which veers toward what you're trying to overcome (in that instance avoid the words “shy” and “insecure”).
A different example - if you want to feel confident about making a speech you put up SAY and THINK “I'm a confident and articulate public speaker” instead of saying “I'm not anxious about public
speaking and I don't falter over my words”. In that instance, steer clear of framing your affirmation in the negative by quashing the words “anxious” and “falter”.
The power of positive affirmations is amazing when you cautiously frame your affirmations in a manner which doesn't inadvertently create unwanted results.
When you utilize the present tense, positive meaningful words and aim high in a reasonable, realistic and incremental manner as described in this book, challenges which have defeated you in the past can be effectively tackled. If you wish to enhance your life, it's time to decide to think positively.